Have you ever wondered where your energy goes?
Well, I can tell you, it goes to whatever you focus on. In other words, ‘energy flows where your attention goes’.
Energy can actually be wasted on things such as:
- the nasty words exchanged in a disagreement with your partner, or
- your aching back and how tired you are feeling, or
- that Sunday evening dread about going back to work after the weekend.
Feelings of upset, fear or anxiety, or experiencing some sort of trauma, can create blockages in the pathways of our energy system. These blockages disrupt the natural frequency we are meant to be at, by preventing energy from flowing freely through us.
So how can we release those blockages, enabling us to be free of all that negative energy, which just keeps us feeling stressed?
I came across the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also known as Tapping, not long after I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, 15 years ago. I was so amazed at the benefits of using it on myself that I later trained in the practice.
EFT is a combination of ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology. We tap, in a very methodical and intentional way, on our body’s meridian points, whilst simultaneously focusing on an emotional or physical issue in our life.
Tapping is a simple technique, which can be used on emotional issues, phobias, physical symptoms, and more, wherever you are. With the ability to restore the body’s energy balance, and to dissolve negative emotions and even physical pain.
The physical pressure of the tapping causes a very small electrical charge to travel through connective tissue and muscles to other points in our body. This releases blockages enabling us to heal and move forward more easily in life.
The Tapping Points, in order, are:
- Inner eyebrow
- Outer eyebrow
- Under the eye
- Under the nose
- Chin (in the dent between the lip and the hard bit)
- Collar Bone, or rather the soft spot under it
- Under the arm (for men this is level with nipple, for ladies about where your bra strap goes)
- Crown of the head
The pressure at which you tap should feel comfortable to you; it doesn’t need to be hard, a light tap will still be effective.
Another place that you will tap is the outside of your hand, in between the wrist and the base of the pinky finger. This is known as the ‘Karate Chop’, and is only used in the ‘set up’ prior to tapping.
The ‘Set Up’
The ‘Set Up’ is what you do prior to starting the tapping sequence. You need to create a ‘Set Up’ phrase, which gets your mind focused on what it is you want to work on.
I know it seems strange to focus on the negative when we’re constantly being reminded to focus on the positive, but for this technique it’s important to focus on the problem at hand in order to eliminate the blockage and let the energy flow freely.
Let’s imagine you’re thinking, “I feel exhausted and don’t want to get out of bed.” Your ‘set up phrase’ could be:
“Even though I’m feeling exhausted and don’t want to get out of bed, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Note: It’s important to use your own words when setting up the phrase.
Grade the Intensity:
As you repeat that ‘Set Up’ phrase to yourself, and you think about the event, notice how strong the feelings are that arise in your body.
Then grade their intensity from 0 to 10. 10 being the most intense feelings of the emotion or physical feelings, and 0 being none of those feelings at all. Then write that number down.
Use this grading system to measure how the feelings dissipate as you go through a number of rounds of tapping, and to determine when the feeling has gone altogether.
The Tapping Sequence:
Once you’ve done that, you’re ready to do the tapping sequence, and this is how it goes:
- Karate Chop – whilst tapping the karate chop point repeat your ‘set up phrase’ three times, e.g. –
- “Even though I’m feeling exhausted and don’t want to get out of bed, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
From then on you will shorten this phrase as you tap on the other points e.g. “Even though I feel exhausted’, and you only need to say it once at each point.
- Inner eyebrow – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Outer eyebrow – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Under eye – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Under nose – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Chin – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Collar Bone (soft spot) – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Under arm – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
- Crown of the head – tap whilst saying “Even though I feel exhausted”
Repeat this sequence a couple more times, missing out the karate chop and starting at the inner eyebrow. After that, check in with how you’re feeling, and grade the intensity of those feelings from 0-10.
You will notice that they either haven’t changed much or have reduced to a lower number. In which case, do another few rounds and grade again. The idea is to get rid of any intensity around that original feeling – bringing it down to zero.
What happens if the feelings don’t dissolve?
This BASIC technique will often clear negative emotions or physical symptoms, like a headache, in a very short time. However, sometimes there are more, hidden emotions relating to the original scenario. If so, it’s important to rid yourself of all of them to really make the problem go away.
Occasionally, as you tap on the original problem, something else will pop into your mind that’s bothering you. For example, “I hate my job and don’t want to go to work.”
Write that new thought down, to go back to when you have finished the tapping round you are currently on. You can keep working with the original feelings that you had, or, if they won’t budge, move onto the new feelings that popped up.
In which case, set up your new phrase. For example, “Even though I hate my job and don’t want to go to work, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Grade the intensity of that emotion and write it down. Then start tapping on the Karate Chop point whilst repeating the NEW full set up phrase three times. As you move onto the other points, reduce the phrase to, “Even though I hate my job.”
You can keep doing this for as long as it takes to shift the intensity of any emotions that pop up, to a 0. You may find that you have to work on lots of different emotions that arise from that first original problem.
Bare in mind that this is just a very simple introduction to tapping and how to use it. Visiting an experienced EFT Practitioner will be even more effective. A trained person can discover what the client themselves maybe unaware and possibly what is causing dis-ease in the body.
A useful tool for your toolbox
However, this useful technique can be hugely powerful whenever you feel any type of negative emotion or are experiencing any sort of physical symptom. You can rid yourself of those thoughts or feelings that may distract you from having an otherwise good day, so make sure you give it a go!
Here is a more discreet form of EFT. Use it in public without people thinking you are crazy!
(Please excuse the Christmas theme of this blog, the technique is at the bottom of the article, and it can be used at any time of the year!)